Obituary for Lori Jeanette Dannhauser Hulle
Lori Dannhauser Hulle, 66, of Middletown, N.Y., died on July 28 at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Care Center in New York City, with her husband, brother and sister by her bedside.
Lori was born in Teaneck, N.J., and reared in New City, N.Y. She was the daughter of the late Bill Dannhauser and Marilyn McAlpine Dannhauser.
When Lori discovered her sneaky cancer it had already metastasized. Instead of sulking in woe, she practiced what she had preached during more than 25 years as an alcohol and substance abuse counselor to students in the Washingtonville Central Schools —she lived one day at a time, controlled what she could and left the rest to the heavens. Her faith firmly in the Lord, Lori sought out and enrolled in clinical trials, then filled her time off from treatment with day trips to New York City and overnight adventures with her best friend and favorite traveling buddy, her sister, Jamie Dannhauser.
In addition to Jamie, Lori leaves her devoted husband, Doug Hulle, who loved her in sickness and in health; her loving brother, Bill Dannhauser and his wife, Carol; her adoring nephews, Billy and Christopher; and scores of former students and colleagues whom she considered family.
Lori was a generous and giving soul who focused on the joys in her life versus the challenges. She was a woman of strong faith, eager to consort with the angels for strength, and relying on the heavens to guide her. She, too, proved to be a guide during her illness, an exemplar of how to experience cancer treatment with strength, humor and dignity.
Lori loved movies, Broadway, the beach, music, travel, games and game shows, especially if she could experience these with others. Lori was game for most anything. She wasn’t afraid to fail or to fall, looking instead at what she learned and experienced in the process. Until the end, Lori was a woman of character and strength, traits she shared and worked to improved alongside her “sisters” in faith and grace, the Sand Angels.
Taking care of others was Lori’s life’s work. Professionally, she provided prevention and intervention services to vulnerable students, and was most proud when a person whom she mentored or sponsored reached their goal. In addition to hands-on, one-to-one guidance in the Washington School District, she served on the district’s drug advisory council. She served on the board of directors of the National Student Assistance Council and was the co-chair of Friends of Recovery in Orange County, N.Y.
In recognition of her years of service, the Alcoholism & Drug Abuse Council of Orange County presented Lori with the Frances Sodrick Lifetime Achievement Award in 2016.
As the owner of Excel Seminars, Lori helped design curricula and training programs in conflict resolution, peer mediation and drug and alcohol abuse prevention. She taught graduate courses in school counseling and designed courses for Teacher Education University. Lori earned a Master’s degree from Montclair State University, and a bachelor’s degree from SUNY Oneonta.
As Lori was about to embark on yet another round of chemo, she wrote to her friends, “It is so easy to see what I don’t/can’t do. So today I do something with great JOY and gratitude.” That is the way she lived her life.
Contributions in Lori’s memory may be made to the Alcohol & Drug Abuse Council of Orange County, and Memorial Sloan Kettering. Celebration of Life coming soon. Condolences welcome at Applebee-McPhillips Funeral Home, http://m.applebee-mcphillips.com/.
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